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               %CONTROL REFLEXIVE OBJECTIVE REALITY 950229

     It  is harder to control reflexive realities than  it
is to control objective realities.  For example, we cannot
control  the course of a personal relationships as  easily
as  we  can  control the course of a car we  are  driving.
Neither can an alcoholic or other addict control their use
of  drugs as easily as they can push objects around  in  a
fit of anger.

     People   who  are  prone  to  try  to  control  human
behaviors through the use of   rules and regulations,  are
prone  to  try to control objective human behaviors---more
often  than  they are to try to  control  reflexive  human
behaviors.   It is harder to control and be informed about
how  well  one has controlled reflexive human behaviors---
than it is  to control and be informed about how well  one
has controlled objective human behaviors.

     When  people want to resist efforts to  control them;
they  may go through the objective motions which will give
the  impression  that  they are  yielding  to  efforts  to
control them,  but in reflexive ways which are not obvious
they  may resist the efforts to control them.    Rebellion
may  be  expressed  in  reflexive behavior  which  is  not
objective   and  so  is  not  easy  to  detect,   but   is
nevertheless  very significant.   Not all that matters  is
objective  in nature and the most  significant  rebellions
are   reflexive   in  nature---and  invisible   to   those
seeking to be "in control."

     Rebellion  against  attempts at control may take  the
form  of  being  dishonest.    The  controllers  are  thus
alienated from those people whom they would control.  Such
alienation  is tragically significant.   In the  ignorance
which results from such  alienation the pseudo-controllers
may  have the impression that they have  been  successful,
and that they have done a good job as "good" people---when
in  fact they have sown the seeds of much evil which  will
grow  from  the  alienation  which they  have  engendered.
Alienation is the essence of evil.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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