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  %THREAT REJECT EXCOMMUNICATE ALIEN CONTROL SECURE+950217
%VULNERABILITY OPEN HONEST CONFLICT GOOD POWER EVIL+950217
 %ILLICIT INTIMACY SEXUALITY SAFETY INTEGRITY WHOLE+950217
 %RIDICULE DISRESPECT GOSSIP SLANDER TACIT IMPLICIT 950217

     Threats  of legalism,  judgmentalism,   condemnation,
rejection,  excommunication, alienation,  imprisonment and
other  related  treatments usually  engender  attempts  to
achieve  security through being in control of what  cannot
be controlled.

     When  people  are  expected/required  to  assure  the
outcome of their  efforts,  to control the consequences of
what  they  do,   the natural response is  to  attempt  to
control   people   who   can   influence   the   outcomes.
Expectations    and/or   requirements  of  outcome-control
lead  naturally to violent attempts to  control  people---
for  the initial  expectations  and/or  requirements   are
violent attempts  to control people.    The latter efforts
to  be in control  are  but  echoes of the initial efforts
to  be   in control;  the latter attempts are part of  the
same paradigm which engenders violent human relationships.

     The   qualities  of  human  relationships   are   not
improved  through  attempts  to control  humans  or  their
relationships.     Expectations  and/or  requirements   of
"proper" control of humans or their relationships engender
alienative efforts to control what cannot be controlled---
and  to  dishonesty  about the failures  to  control  what
cannot  be controlled.   Such alienation grows out of  the
belief that it is possible to control humans and/or  their
relationships---and  good  to attempt to do so in  certain
ways.

     A parallel common human belief is that it is evil for
there  to be failures in good attempts to be in control of
humans and/or their relationships. "Evil" people are those
who fail most frequently to conform to the expectations of
"good"   people.   Such beliefs are part of a  dichotomous
paradigm according to which a great battle between supreme
powers of "good" and "evil" dominate the cosmos and cosmic
processes.

     "Good"  people are allied with the  supreme power  of
"good";   and  "evil"  people are allied with the  supreme
power of "evil".   There is no hope for the reconciliation
of  the supreme power of "evil"  with the supreme power of
"good".   It  seems that the ultimate conflict  cannot  be
resolved  to the mutual satisfaction of the ultimate power
of "good" and the ultimate power of "evil".    There is an
ultimate  battle   which   leads   many   people   to   be
engaged  in violent  relationships  in  their  efforts  to
control  the  outcome  of  the great  battle  between  the
supreme power of "good" and the supreme power of "evil".

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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