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  %BEING MADE VULNERABLE COERCED MANIPULATED FRIEND+941101
   %VIOLENCE INTIMACY OPEN HONEST RISK ATTACK ALIEN 941101

     There  is a great contrast between being forced to be
vulnerable  by  a  violent  enemy,  and  being   willfully
vulnerable in the presence of an intimate friend with whom
one can be true to oneself in open and honest dialogue.

     There  is no  way  that one  person can force another
person to give the gift which is given  in being willfully
vulnerable  in  the honest presence of an intimate friend.
Violent   actions  which  force   vulnerability   generate
alienation,  not intimacy---no matter how close people may
be to each other physically.

     True intimacy cannot be forced.   True honesty cannot
be forced.   True friendship cannot be forced.   Intimacy,
honesty  and  friendship are not technical accomplishments
achieved by the following of  any particular set of  rules
and  regulations  which  specify  how  to achieve    them,
nor by any prescribed ritual.

     Salvation  is  not possible in the  absence  of  true
intimacy,   honesty,   and friendship---and  so  salvation
cannot be achieved  by the following of any particular set
of rules and regulations, nor by any prescribed ritual.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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