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     %EMOTION MATURE BLAME GUILT SHAME PUNISH LIMIT 940107

     People  who   are  emotionally  immature,    due   to
their  having  grown  up in emotionally immature homes  or
settings,     often   resort   to   emotionally   immature
manipulative  means  by  which  they  try  to  deal   with
circumstances  which  they   do not  understand  and  find
embarrassing.     They  often  fail to own as  their   own
their  own emotional difficulties---and project  their own
difficulties  upon  other  people.   They blame,     shame
and guilt other people;  and  try  to  use punishments  as
manipulative   means by which  to   promote  conformity---
because   they regard people  pretty  much  as they regard
objects;   things  to  be pushed  around.    They  try  to
manipulate  human  relationships in the manner   in  which
engineers manipulate objects;  and they  do not understand
---the resentment,  anger,   alienation and violence which
they engender.

     It is important to recognize, name, describe and talk
about  instances of human behavior  which  fit  the  above
pattern.   Reciprocal attempts at human manipulation  will
only  escalate  the resentments,  anger,   alienation  and
violence.    We  need  to  recognize  the  roots  of   the
dysfunctional  behavior  and take steps to insure that the
next  generation of babies,  infants,   and children  have
emotionally  more mature  homes and settings in which  the
grow up with more functionally healthy patterns of coping.
We need to place greater emphasis upon the emotional well-
being of our babies,  infants and children than  upon  the
manipulation of objects, money, possessions,  manufactured
goods, businesses, and political manipulations.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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