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  %THANKS APPRECIATE FORGIVE GENEROUS GIFT ANTIDOTE+931222
   %CHEER JOY HAPPY POSITIVE AFFIRM ACCEPT TOLERATE 931222

     Being positive,  thankful,  appreciative,  forgiving,
generous,  cheerful,  joyous, happy, affirming,  accepting
and   tolerant---can   be  effective  antidotes   to   the
debilitative effects of the presence of collusive  addicts
and  codependents  who are playing games  of  mutual  self
deception---and  who  seek  to require us  to  play  their
games   with   them   to   help   them   preserve    their
dysfunctional paradigms.

     The  antidotes are not effective if they are not used
honestly;   i.e.,   if they are part of our own  games  of
mutual  self  deception by which we seek to  pretend  that
imperfections  which  are present do not exist or  can  be
ignored without paying the price for such dishonesty.

     The  antidotes are not effective if we do not at  the
same  time recognize,  name,  describe and talk about  the
dishonesty of others and the price that is paid because of
their dishonesty.

     The  antidotes are not effective if they are  used as
manipulative  weapons  in a conflict with others  who  use
more    negative    weapons.      Weapons    of   personal
manipulation   are alienative no matter how good they  may
be, and no mater how good our intentions may be.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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