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 %PUNISH MAKE PEOPLE GOOD COERCE MANIPULATE VIOLENT+931211
 %REVENGE CLEAR CONFUSE ADDICT CODEPEND PRISON EVIL+931211
%TEACH LEARN TRAGIC MISTAKE CONFINE VICTIM LOVE LAW 931211

     It  is  important to be clear about our  motives  and
means when we try to make people be good.   It is a tragic
mistake  to  believe that through the use of  manipulative
means  and violence we can teach people to be good.   When
people are manipulated and violated they do not learn  the
lessons  which  the manipulators and violators intend  for
them  to  learn;   victims learn to  be  manipulators  and
violators in imitation of those who manipulate and violate
them.

     Often  we make the tragic mistake of pretending  that
our  efforts  to  get revenge are nobel attempts  to  make
people  whom we resent to be good people according to  our
definitions.    In so doing we are dishonest and lose  our
ability  to  make and act upon wise decisions  based  upon
true perceptions, insights, understanding and sympathy.

     Often our  feelings  of  a  need  to  get revenge are
symptoms of our own perceived injustices (which are  often
the  fruits  of our own twisted logic)  rather  than  real
injustices  originating  in  the real behaviors  of  other
people.     We  may  regard  other  people's  failures  to
conform to our expectations as injustices against us, when
the real  injustices are in our  attempts  to coerce other
people  through  our  conformal  expectations  which   are
immature and  violent.   Often members  of minority groups
suffer  thus  at the hands of  self righteous  members  of
powerful majorities.

     It is disintegrative for self righteous people to try
to  force relatively powerless members of minority  groups
to  conform  to  the  behavioral  standards  of  the  self
righteous.  Self righteousness does not empower anybody to
successfully  teach  non-conformists to  behave  properly.
Honest teaching does not involve coercion,   manipulation,
or violence.

     Honest teaching is education which entails educement,
drawing   out,   encouragement,   empowerment,   enabling,
assisting,   liberation,  and the increase of  alternative
opportunities.     With the assistance of honest  teachers
true students learn how to be persons of integrity who are
true  to  themselves and to others,  and the  benefits  of
honest dialogue, conversations and cooperation grow day by
day.

     Honest   teaching   is  not  training  which  entails
impositions,   confinements,  intimidation,   limitations,
discouragement,    imprisonment,   and  the  decrease   of
alternatives  and  possibilities.     In the  presence  of
tragically misguided dishonest manipulators, their victims
learn  to  be dishonest with their manipulators,  and  the
evils of alienative human relationships grow day by day.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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