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  %FREE SECURE TRUE SELF OTHERS TRANSCEND CHILD GOD+931101
   %DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY PARENT ADULT ADDICT DEPEND+931101
    %ESCAPE PRISON REPRESSION DEPRESSION POWER GAME 931101

     To  become free and to be true to ourselves and  each
other  with  personal  and  communal  integrity  we   must
transcend the false gods of our childhoods conceptions  of
the  nature of reality.   Such transcendence is  not  only
permitted,  it is essential to our well being, health, and
integrity.

     As  children  we  did not have the   power  to  truly
recognize, name, describe, talk about, judge and transcend
the   dysfunctional  gods  who  dominated  our  lives   of
dependency.     Now  as adults we do  have  the  power  to
honesty recognize,  name,  describe, talk about, judge and
truly transcend the  dysfunctional  gods who dominated our
childhood lives of dependency and impotence.

     Even  the  best of the parents and other  adults  who
dominated our childhood lives were imperfect;  but in  our
impotence we may have often conceived  them to be eternal,
perfect, omnipotent,  omniscient and omnipresent.  We will
in  turn be dysfunctional  parents  and adults if  now  as
powerful adults and parents we continue to conceive of the
godly guardians, parents and adults of our childhood years
as if they are eternal,  perfect,  omnipotent,  omniscient
and omnipresent---even though they may  be obviously dead,
dysfunctional imperfect, weak, uninformed and/or absent.

     We  cannot  now be true to ourselves and  each  other
with personal and communal integrity so long as we are not
open  and  honest with ourselves and each other about  the
true natures of the guardians,  parents, and adults of our
childhood  years.   Honesty about them is essential to our
becoming  liberated  to be true to ourselves and  to  each
other.    We cannot enjoy personal and communal  integrity
without  being honest about the imperfect people who  were
to us gods in our childhood years of impotent dependency.

     To be truly ourselves, whole and healthy, we now need
to learn to name,  describe,  talk about,  judge and truly
transcend the dysfunctional  gods whom we conceived in and
dominated our childhood lives of dependency and impotence.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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