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     %CONFUSE SHAME GUILT DISAPPOINT FRUSTRATE FAIL 931010

     Often  we  are  confronted with situations  in  which
people  are in need and we cannot meet all of the needs of
which we are aware.   We may feel inappropriately shameful
and guilty in such situations if:

     1.  We confuse our inadequacy  to the situation which
exists   because  of  our  human  limitations---with   our
failure  which  are  due  to  carelessness,   inattention,
selfishness, laziness, etc.

     2.  We have been lead to make the assumption that our
powers and duties to fix situations and people in need are
not as limited as they in fact are.

     3.  We  have been conditioned to feel shame and guilt
for  failures  which are failures to  achieve  unrealistic
goals;  unrealistic goals which  manipulative  others have
encouraged us to believe we could and should achieve---and
then then they have made us feel shame and  guilt upon not
achieving  the unrealistic goals with which they  burdened
us.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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