This is http://www.essayz.com/a9309121.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %RESPECT TOOL FEAR GUILT SHAME ALIENATION VIOLENCE 930912 The carpenter uses the hammer constructively in the construction of new homes. Such use of a tool merits respect and support. The use of a hammer in breaking into a home and in doing violence to the people in a home does not merit respect or support. There are many thing which can be used as tools They may be used for integrative or disintegrative purposes, in integrative or disintegrative ways. There are other things which are very difficult to use in integrative ways; and usually get used in disintegrative ways. The following words point to realities which things are often used by some people in manipulative ways which prompt both personal and communal disintegration: fear guilt shame alienation estrangement misunderstanding rejection exclusivity elitism coercion violence arrogance The use of most anything as a tool of unilateral manipulation of one or more persons generates alienation between the manipulators and the manipulated. Some things lend themselves to such alienative manipulation more readily than others. Some things are more difficult to abuse as tools of personal manipulation; for example: honest listening true sympathy honest responses encouraging presence true tolerance genuine forgiveness real generosity respectful tenderness offering alternatives honest role models It is safer to respect and honor behavior characterized by phrases in the second list than to respect and honor behavior characterized by words in the first list. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================