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 %WILL PRINCIPLE REFUSAL COOPERATE RESOLVE CONFLICT+930815
 %FORGIVE CONFESS GUILT SHAME HONEST RECONCILE LOVE+930815
   %FUNDAMENTAL FANATIC CONVICTION BELIEF SCRIPTURE 930815

     Much human misery comes from our willful refusals (on
principle) to:

     Cooperate          Resolve Conflicts       Forgive

     Confess guilt      Be open and honest      Forget

     Listen             Generously share        Reflect

     We internalize disintegrative ideals and values which
mis-lead us into disintegrative behaviors.   Or we cherish
our conflicts  because they represent to us signs that  we
are  being  faithful to our side of the conflicting ideals
and  values.     We  are  often more concerned with  being
faithful to our side of the conflicting ideals and values,
than we are with our personal and communal integrity;  and
we willfully sacrifice our personal and communal integrity
in the  worship/service  of  our disintegrative ideals and
values.

     We all need to  learn  to  beware  of  leaders who on
principle  refuse to engage in integrative behaviors  such
as those suggested above.  They are disintegrative leaders
who  are  idolatrous in their  worship  of  disintegrative
ideals, values and principles.  They often worship ideals,
values  and principles which are centered upon  themselves
and  those  few  people whom they  most  cherish---to  the
exclusion  of others who are kept outside of their  select
inner circle of friends and associates.   They create  and
maintain a dichotomous reality; and judge themselves to be
"good",  and those outside their select inner circle  they
judge  to  be  "evil".    They select and worship  ideals,
values  and  principles which help them to maintain  their
disintegrative dichotomies.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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