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    %GOD CHOICE ADDICT DICHOTOMOUS ALTERNATIVE FREE 930430

     God places before us the possibility and  opportunity
to  be  set  free  to  respond  to  God's  promptings   of
of   our  liberated  hearts   to respect  and  seek   both
personal  and communal integrity through increased  levels
of mutual:

    honesty                     openness
    cooperation                 trust
    understanding               respect
    vulnerability               liberation
    service                     appreciation
    affection                   intimacy
    dialogue                    pleasures

while  at  the  same  time  demonstrating  due  regard for
appropriate levels of caution,  prudence,  reason,  logic,
and systematic consideration of technical matters.

     In  great  contrast,   collusive  addicts  and  their
codependents  demand  that  we place our  trust  in  their
programs for their systematic control of our:

    spontaneity                 creativity
    imaginations                desires
    pleasures                   joys
    happiness                   fulfillment
    emotions                    communications
    affections                  sexuality
    satisfactions               loves
    intimacies                  insights
    honesty                     openness
    cooperation                 trust
    understanding               respect
    vulnerability               liberations

without  respect for God's promptings which might visit us
while  we  are  still stuck in our prisons;   and  perhaps
liberate  us from our prisons through  I-Thou  encounters,
and cloth us with fulfillment, satisfaction and joy in the
absence of  controlling  boundaries.   Addicts  and  their
codependents often have  the arrogance to claim  that they
speak  by  God's  commission and with  God's  authority to
control us.

     All  too  often  we  are  tragically  seduced  by our
expectations  that  we  can  achieve  exclusive   security
for  ourselves through the exercise of unilateral control.
We   are  seduced  by   our  dishonest  hopes  that    our
defensive measures will achieve  for  us,   at the expense
of  others,   the kind  of security which  we seek.    Too
rarely  do we recognize that true security is to be  found
in   the   non-calculated  gifts we give  each  to  other;
gifts  of   the freedom to  be  safely  vulnerable---given
upon  God's prompting of our liberated hearts.

     While God  seeks  to  liberate  us  from  restrictive
controls by writing  his  laws  of love upon  our   hearts
--- so   we   can   respond   to  his creative promptings;
in   contrast     collusive     addicts     and      their
codependent supporters  seek   to   control us through the
enforcement of  their  laws  to restrict our freedoms   so
we   will appear  to  conform   to   their expectations.

     It is our choice to decide whom to trust.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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