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    %DICHOTOMY SPLIT CONFLICT OPPOSITE BOUND ADDICT+930402
%ADDICT ATTACK TRUE INTEGRITY TRUTH DISTRACT AFFIRM 930402

     When addictive people attack true people of integrity
because they threaten the collusive games of  mutual  self
deception of the addicts and their codependent  supporters
--- it is  a  temptation  to  true people of integrity  to
shift  their  attention  from  the  truths to  which  they
witness  and  direct    their   attention   and    efforts
in    defensive   technologies  in  attempts  to   protect
themselves  against  the  addictive     attacks.      Such
defensive    attempts    can   be  manipulated   by    the
addictive  people in such a way as  to convert   imprudent
people  of  integrity  into  addictive people.   Defensive
efforts    to  achieve  security   at   the  expense    of
addictive   people  leads to surrender  to the patterns of
assumptions,     beliefs,    attitudes,    techniques  and
technologies of the dishonest addicts.

     When   dishonest  addicts  attack  true   people   of
integrity it  is important for true people of integrity to
keep their focus  upon  preserving  personal  and communal
integrity  through  their continuing witness  to  positive
truths;   rather than  through  manipulative  attempts  to
destroy  addictive assumptions,     attitudes,    beliefs,
techniques and technologies---at the expense  of  the sick
addicts.      The   defensive   efforts   end   up   being
disintegrative  no matter how good,  sincere,  and focused
the intentions are.   Defensive efforts do not resolve the
conflicts between the  way  of life  of  addicts and their
supportive codependents on the one  hand,  and true people
of integrity on the other hand. Defensive efforts  to  not
lead  to   win-win   conflict resolution, but to lose-lose
violent battles.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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