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   %TIME CONFLICT SET UNREAL GOAL HUMAN LIMIT TENSE 930325

     A significant amount of human conflict relates to our
setting for ourselves and each other unrealistic goals  as
to what must be accomplished within finite time intervals;
i.e.,   deadlines for goal accomplishment.   When we  make
unrealistic commitments/demands which do not deal honestly
with   human  finitude  as  regards  resources,    powers,
knowledge,  cooperation,  and conflict resolution---we set
the stage for future conflict.   We have deceive ourselves
and  perhaps other persons  if we are surprised  when  the
drama we set up plays itself out.

     Procrastinating    the   giving   of   attention   to
unavoidable tasks pushes into the future the resolution of
present conflicts; and so generates more intense conflicts
in the future---as the  price for not honestly seeking  to
resolve today's conflicts in a timely way.

     Much of our conflict originates in our refusal to  be
honest about our limitations.  If we were honest about our
time  limitations,    power   limitations   and   resource
limitations; we would be realistic about what goals can be
achieved  within  specific  intervals of time,  and  which
goals cannot be achieved.   Much of our conflict has to do
with  trying to maintain  false  appearances;   pretending
until the last minute that we  will  be able to do what we
have subconsciously  known all along that we could not get
done by the falsely agreed to deadline.

     When time passes and accomplishments are not achieved
in a timely way;  in keeping with our previous patterns of
dishonesty  we  may resort to  additional dishonesty---and
keep on pretending.   We may pretend that the job did  get
done,  that we never really said we would do the job, that
not getting the job done is the fault of others,   or that
there  were circumstances   which   we   could   not  have
anticipated, etc.  Such pretense just accumulates into the
future our conflicts which are as yet unresolved.  In this
way our conflicts between  the  truth  and  our  pretenses
accumulate  between us and the possibility of personal and
communal integrity.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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