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 %DESCRIBE HEALTH COMMUNE HUMBLE PRESENCE WORK SEEK+930316
   %SECURITY ROOT GROUND TRUE SELF OTHER CONFORMITY 930316

     If  our security is not rooted/grounded in being true
to ourself and others;  then it is not true security.   We
can  be truly secure only if we base our security in being
true to ourselves and others.

     If we base our security in trying to be successful in
conforming   ourselves  to  the  expectations/demands   of
others;   then we  find  that  their  expectations/demands
change  about  as  fast as we meet them.   The  target  is
constantly  moving and we cannot have any reasonable  hope
of being successful.

     If  we  base  our security in defensive  measures  by
which  to  make ourselves safe we fail;  because our  best
defensive measures end up alienating even the people  whom
we  want  to respect and admire us,  and whom want  to  be
close to.    The more insecure we are,  the more defensive
we  are;  and the more we  alienate  others---making  them
defensive towards us.

     If our security is not rooted/grounded in being  true
to ourselves and others; then it is likely to be rooted in
manipulative defensive  measures  which  include  secrecy,
deception,  dishonesty, and collusive games of addicts and
their   codependent  supporters.     Such   measures   are
alienative and generated additional measures of insecurity
on the part of people around us;  measures  of  insecurity
which increase our own insecurity.

     We  can be truly secure only if we base our  security
in being true to ourselves and others.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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