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  %ESCAPE COLLUSION TABOO SALVATION REDEMPTION PRAY 930302

     The imprisoning fabrics of our lives are woven out of
our fears of rejection:

     1.  By participants in our collusions.

     2.  By addicts and supportive codependents.

     3.  By people who violate our integrity/communities.

     4.  By dishonest people who do not truly love us.

     5.  In the absence of true security/vulnerability.

     6.  For being true to ourselves and each other.

     7.  For enjoying non-conformal pleasures.

     8.  For transcending conformal manipulations.

     9.  For being truly imaginative and creative.

     10.  Seeking truth, honesty, integrity and health.

     Our fears are  nurtured and guided by our collusions,
addictions and codependencies in their  own dishonest self
defense.

     Non-conformal  pleasures,   joys and  enjoyments  are
taboo;   because through them we might escape the  tightly
woven fabric of our fears of rejection.

     Truly  loving  acceptance  is  taboo;   because  such
acceptance  robs  collusions,  addictions  and  supportive
codependents of their manipulative powers to control  our:
experiences,  perceptions,  feelings,  desires,  thoughts,
judgements,    values,    ideals,   attitudes,  listening,
expressions,  communication channels, conversations, talk,
silences, dialogue, and being who we are.

     True   love    by  small  disintegrative   steps   is
converted   into  systems  of  ethical   rules,      moral
injunctions,    and  legal  prohibitions---which  can   be
manipulated  as tools of control by powerful and respected
colluders,   addicts  and their  supportive  codependents.
True   love    is   forgotten  behind   the    mask    for
respectable   conformity,   which is regarded as safe  and
reliable.

     Respectable conformity is neither safe nor  reliable;
for   behind   its   mask  are  intense   and   unresolved
frustration, resentment, anger,  confusion, forgetfulness,
tension, contention, conflict, and violence which is ready
to  explode when triggered by the last straw.  The greater
is the fear  that the mask will fail,  the greater are the
efforts to promote continued manipulative conformity;  and
the  greater becomes the pressure  leading to the ultimate
and  nearly inevitable explosion.  Those who promote  such
conformity   consider   themselves  to   be   respectable,
righteous, saved, superior,  perfected,  and members of an
exclusive  club of the  best people that exist.  In  their
self-righteousness  they  are alienated from  each  other,
themselves,   and those whom they have excluded from their
exclusive  club.  They are frightened in their loneliness,
and   intensity   their  technocratic  efforts   to   save
themselves through addictive and codependent  fixes  which
are designed to save their dishonest collusions.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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