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  %FEAR TRUTH HONESTY PEOPLE INTEGRITY HEALTH WHOLE 930222

     If  we  are  deeply  involved in collusive  games  of
mutual self deception, addictions and codependent support;
then  we are of necessity fearful of all truths,  truthful
people, people of integrity;  and therefore are fearful of
healthy people and simply honest children.  We are anxious
all  of  the  time in fear that  the  dishonest  purposes,
rules, and  techniques  of our collusive games  of  mutual
self  deception  will  be  exposed by  honest  people  and
children.

     We  do not fear dishonesty,  but honesty.   We do not
fear fear,  but the absence of fear in healthy people  and
children.   We do not fear alienation and  disintegration,
but  intimacy  and integrity.  Because we have gone crazy,
healthy people appear to us to be crazy.

     To avoid total disintegration we  need  to  recognize
the   factors  contributing to our present disintegration;
and to learn to fear fear,  dishonesty,  alienation,   and
disintegration.   We  need to learn to listen  to  healthy
people  of  integrity who are open and honest in  intimate
relationships---which  are unthinkable and threatening  to
us now.

     We will not learn to listen well until we decide that
what  is happening to us now is intolerable and is leading
us to even more  intolerable  situations; and we decide to
change  ourselves,  and so decide to  change  our  ideals,
values,   attitudes,   goals,  and ways of perceiving  our
selves  and  others.   Only then can  be  become  well  by
listening  well  to well people who are honest and  listen
well.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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