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 %COMPULSIVE OBJECT EMOTION NEED SEX CONFLICT VALUE 930101

     Compulsive objectivists are trapped in a double bind.
On the one hand because of  their compulsive dedication to
always being objective as  their  highest ideal and value;
they cannot deal openly,   honestly  and wisely with their
own emotions. Emotions are reflexive, not objective. To be
reflexive is to be NOT objective; but one  must  always be
objective to be perfect  as a compulsive objectivist. Thus
emotions are to be avoided, denied, repressed, etc.

     On the other hand humans do have emotional needs.  To
the  compulsive  objectivists the combination of  the  two
words "emotional needs" is an oxymoron;  a  combination of
two words with contradictory meaning---like "dry water" or
"honest  deception".   Emotions  by their  very  existence
threaten    the    collusive   paradigm   of    compulsive
objectivists;   emotions  are  realities   with   negative
connotations.  How can we have emotional needs?  How about
"frustration needs", "pain needs", "confusion needs"?

     At the same time even compulsive objectivists do have
needs   for   communal  acceptance,   affection,    sexual
relationships,   social connections,  gifts  of  security,
intimacy,   etc.   Yet  their  paradigm  and  professional
training  do not make provisions for dealing with the full
range  of  their needs.  Not only is provision  not  made,
their  training  leads them to believe in ways  of  living
which  place blockages in the way of making provisions for
emotional needs outside  the context of their professional
training.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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