This is http://www.essayz.com/a9210183.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SATISFY FULFILL TRUE SEX RELATE BUY ADVERTISE LOVE 921018 Through much manipulative advertising we are conditioned to have attitudes which suggest that sexual satisfaction can be had and/or augmented primarily through purchases, acquisitions, achievements, and being in control. Manipulative people engage in such dishonest advertising for selfish gain. Too often we are the victims of their dishonesty in our making foolish purchases and acquisitions, and through our striving for achievements and control which will not bring the anticipated satisfaction. Many overt and tacit communications suggest that the essence of sexual satisfaction and integrity pertains to the details of objective physical relationships; rather than to the quality of reflexive personal relationships. Thus taboos, laws, moral and ethical codes focus far more upon objective physical relationships, than upon the aspects of reflexive personal relationships. We can promote personal and communal integrity by focusing more attention upon the foundations for sexual satisfaction in: conflict resolution, power sharing, balanced decision making, integrative mutuality, honest listening/dialogue, mutual vulnerability, gifts of security, acceptance of non-conformity, respect for differences, tolerance of creativity. Also by refraining from showing respect for expressions of macho tendencies to control, win, seduce, compete, score, and play dictatorial games of mutual self deception. Macho addicts work in ways which undermine healthy sexual relationships because healthy sexual relationships entail forms of intimacy and honesty which will undermine the traditional respect sh own for macho addicts and their collusive games of mutual self deception. The mutual vulnerability which is central to healthy sexual relationships is taboo to participants in collusions, for collusions cannot survive such honest vulnerability. Thus macho addicts define sexuality in ways which promote dishonesty, deception, and attempts to be in control. No new system designed to control sexuality will help us transcend the dilemmas and mysteries of human sexuality. The development of all such systems of control are motivated by and guided by addictive and collusive attitudes, concerns, and needs. To enjoy true healthy sexuality we need to transcend such motivations and guidance. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================