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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9112171.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONTROL DESIRE SELF OTHER FEEL EMOTION FIX 911217 In our search for satisfaction we often seek satisfaction through the exercise of different kinds of control. We seek to control our feelings by behaving in ways which make us feel good; and end up fixated upon fixes to control undesired "bad" emotions; without authentically knowing ourselves or each other by being true to ourselves and others. We cannot control our feelings satisfactorily without knowing ourselves and each other by being true to ourselves and others. If we try to control ourselves and/or each other; then we cannot know ourselves and each other by being true to ourselves and others. When we try to be in control through fixes, we pay for our fixes by sacrificing our honesty and integrity. There are different kinds of control through which we seek satisfaction. There is a difference between trying to gain satisfaction through the abuse of drugs as fixes for unsatisfactory emotions, and trying to gain satisfaction through being respected citizens who try to control addicts and codependents. Both involve preoccupations with control, however. There is a difference between trying to gain satisfaction through control of other people through the use of great power, and trying to gain satisfaction through prideful avoidance of the risks of the exercise of power and control. Yet both involve preoccupations with control. Being in control of not having power, is just another kind of being in power, and being in control to try to gain satisfaction. We are troubled as long as we are preoccupied with questions of power and control: Who is in control? Who has more power? Who has what power? Who is controlling whom? Who is out of control? Who can control whoever is out of control? Fixation upon such questions rarely leads to true satisfaction. Fixation upon such questions can include compulsively trying to avoid such questions as if they were taboo. We may find satisfaction when we transcend fixating upon power and control, and learn to know each other openly and honestly without preoccupations with issues of control. Yet, we are still fixated upon control and power if we seek a guarantee that we will be satisfied when we let go of our fixations upon power and control. No system can be devised which will assure satisfaction if it is systematically followed as a means to be in control of the satisfaction of self and/or others. We cannot enjoy ourselves or each other, until we give up our preoccupations with power and control over ourselves, each other, and our evolving relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================