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 %FEAR TRUTH DESIRE DECEPTION SELF OTHER UNDERSTAND 911214

     When we fear the truth, we desire to be deceived.

     We   are  motivated  to  accept  deceptive  behavior,
because we fear the truth.

     Others  encourage us to deceive them,  when they fear
the truth about themselves and about us.

     Others  motivate us to lead deceptive lives,  because
they  do  not know how to live gracefully with  the  truth
about themselves and about us.

     We  cannot truthfully live with each other unless  we
understand  and  deal with the ways in which  we  motivate
ourselves  and each other to want,  desire,  and work  for
appearances which are not open and honest.

     It  is dangerous to take for granted that we want  to
know the truth, that we want to avoid deception.   We need
to recognize how often we want deception,  so as to  avoid
the truths which we do not know how to deal with.

     We  need  to  learn how to gracefully deal  with  the
truths  about ourselves and about others,  truths which we
have often found to be embarrassing.   Only when we can so
cope  can  we hope to be free to know those  truths  which
embarrass us now.

     The   way  to  the  truth  will  involve  coming   to
understand   our  motives  when  we  seek  and   encourage
comforting  deceptions;   and so learn to deal openly  and
honestly  with the tragic consequences of  our  comforting
deceptions.  If we do not want to know the truth about our
tendency  to avoid the truth,  what hope can there be  for
wise decisions and actions?

     Our  patterns  of  avoiding embarrassing  truths  are
communal   systemic   patterns,   as  well   as   isolated
individualistic  patterns.    The ways in which  we  avoid
dealing  with embarrassing truths are cooperative ways, as
often   as   they  are  individualistic.    To   transcend
cooperative    deceptions   will    require    cooperative
transcendence  of  our  collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception.

     We  must  agree  together,  at  the  same  time,   to
cooperate   in  confronting  our  collusions.     Agreeing
together   at  the  same  time  is  more  difficult   than
concluding  individually at different times that it  would
be wise to cope honestly with patterns of self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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