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   %FAIL OWN FEELING FEEL HONEST INTEGRATE SELF WAY 911108

     When   we  fail  to  own  our  own  experiences   and
feelings;  we  disintegrate  because  of a lack of will to
be   our  true selves with integrity,  for it seems to  us
that nobody will own us as we truly are.

     When  we fail to own those nearest and dearest to  us
as they  truly   are,     we  set  the  stage  for   their
disintegration;   because they will often be unable to  be
true to themselves with integrity.

     A  failure  to own what is truly a part of us,  is  a
sure sign of disintegration;    a   sign we lack integrity
individually  and  communally.    Personal  and   communal
integrity  either go together,    or decay together;    we
cannot  have  one  without the other.   When  we  seek  to
maintain one without the other,  we  disintegrate.    When
we pretend that we have  (or  can have)   one without  the
other,   we are well on the road  to disintegration;    we
are not well,  we are sick and  dis-eased.    We  can have
integrity  only  when  we  individually work   to  promote
communal  integrity;    and when at the same time  in  the
same  way,    we as communities work to  promote  personal
integrity.    Only  in such a way can we  have  and  enjoy
integrity,     for   such  is the  true   way   of   being
ourselves with integrity.

     Our "ways"  have to do with at  least three different
aspects  of  our  lives:   the   way = path   on which  we
live  our various lives,   the   way = means   in which we
work  hard to  try to get our   way = goals.    Given that
the  word "way"  is used in such confusing different ways,
it  is not surprising that we are confused about the  ways
in which we live.

     We   are  confused when we think of our way  of  life
only  in terms of the technologies,   the means,  which we
use  on  our  way;   failing to recognize  the  attitudes,
beliefs,    values,  ideals,   assumptions,   convictions,
collusions, addictions,   and  codependencies which define
the  way  in which we  live in terms of our  technologies.
When we live in that way,  we are on the way to additional
confusion;  i.e.,  on the way of disintegration.

     The  way of disintegration is not merely  a matter of
what technologies,   what means,  we use;   it is a way of
life,    a    life    style.      In     that    way    we
disintegrate,     for  disintegration  is the life  style.
Not only do our "Things Fall Apart",  we fall apart.  When
our "Things Fall  Apart"  we  also fall apart as indicated
in  the  book  by Acheebe.   We cannot  hold  our  things,
lives,    or  selves together,  when we treat  all  things
objectively.

     Objectivity   is   not   the   key   to    integrity.
Technologies are not  the keys to integrity.  There are no
fixes  which   are  the  keys  to  personal  and  communal
integrity.

     To   enjoy  both personal and communal  integrity  we
must  be  true  to our selves,   and to each other person;
for  such honesty  is  the  key to  integrity.    Whatever
punishes,  inhibits,   stands  in the way of,    distorts,
perverts, confuses,  or otherwise diminishes such honesty,
is  evil.  We may helpfully regard this last statement  as
both a true description,  and as a useful definition;  for
in  truth  in our eternal now and knowledge it  is  always
both.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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