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     %BEING YOURSELF RESPONSIVE RESPONSIBLE CONFORM 911022

     The  essence of being responsible has more to do with
being responsive,  than with conforming to any  prescribed
form of perception and behavior.

     In communities which are dominated by collusive games
of   mutual  self  deception  preoccupations   with   both
conformity   and  non-conformity  play  central  roles  in
relationships,    power   structures,    and    systematic
procedures;  for collusions are about appearances,  rather
than about true realities.

     Colluders  are preoccupied with  appearances  because
collusive success has to do with getting people to believe
and trust appearances,  rather than with understanding why
things appear to be as they are.  Colluders do not dare to
try to understand why things appear to be as they are, for
in  doing so they might expose the dishonesties  of  their
collusions and so cause their house of cards to fall down.

     Collusions  have to do with getting people's  thought
patterns  to  conform  to the  systematics  of  prescribed
patterns  of  thought  and feeling,   for  it  appears  to
colluders  that security resides in conformity which  will
help  them  to  avoid the  embarrassments  of  discovering
truths  which do not conform to the cleverly woven  system
of lies which are the fabric of the collusion.

     It  appears  to  be very dangerous  to  colluders  to
become  involved  with  responsive people  who  are  open,
honest,  and truly responsible;  for such people cannot be
trusted  to conform to prescribed forms of behavior.  Thus
colluders   tend  to  avoid  such  people,    and   define
responsibility in terms of prescribed forms of conformity;
not   in   terms  of  being  responsive  regarding   one's
experiences, perceptions, assumptions,  values and ideals.
The  latter is un-thinkable to colluders,  and is made  to
appear  to  be unreasonable because it  does  not  involve
proper conformity to responsible forms of behavior.   Only
when  people  conform to proper forms of behavior can  the
collusion  survive  with its delicately  woven  system  of
deceptions  and  lies.  Preserving the  collusion  is  the
ultimate  concern  in  a  collusive  community.   Honesty,
integrity  and health are all sacrificed to  preserve  the
collusion.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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