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 %MANIPULATIVE TECHNICAL SEX LOVE SALVATION ACHIEVE 910914

     We   need   to   recognize   and   admit   that   the
salvation,  redemption and love we miss,  lack,  yearn for
and  seek---cannot   be  achieved  through  the   use   of
manipulative techniques,     rituals,    formulas   and/or
systematic procedures.

     This  is  true  whether  the  focus  of  our  efforts
are   psychological,    physical,    sexual,    financial,
possessive,  spiritual,  religious, scholarly, moralistic,
legalistic, ethical or other.

     Salvation   is   not achieved.   Salvation is a  gift
offered freely and received freely.

     Manipulations,   techniques,  rituals,  formulas  and
systematic    procedures   are   not  central  in  giving,
accepting  or  in receiving salvation.

     The   key  to giving or receiving  salvation  is  not
found  in any isolated aspect of life.

     People  who receive salvation do so honestly,  humbly
and without  concern for control of the process.   They do
not regard salvation as a contractual business transaction
in  which   there  should  be a fair  exchange  of   value
and/or  guarantees  of  fulfillment  of  some  contractual
terms.

     Salvation  is  received  in the eternal now;  not  in
the  darkness  cast by the painful past  which  cannot  be
changed, or  in fear of the unknown future which is beyond
control. When we accept salvation we are released from the
prisons of our regret,   shame,  guilt,  fear and anxiety.
We  become free of our collusive games of self  deception,
addictions  and  codependencies---and free to be  true  to
ourselves  and to  each other.  We discover what true love
is,  and  that what we thought was love was not true.

     Salvation   may  come to us through our relationships
with other  persons;   but other persons cannot  guarantee
our  salvation,    nor block our salvation.   They  cannot
sell us salvation for a price,   nor keep it from us until
we pay a price.

     It   is easier to believe that others cannot  deprive
us  of salvation  and  cannot sell us salvation;   than it
is   to  believe  that an other person cannot  assure   us
salvation  through   love and sexual intimacy.    Thus  we
often  seek  to achieve   salvation   through   the   love
and/or   sexual intimacies of another person;  or  perhaps
we  seek to assure another  person  salvation  through our
love  and/or  our sexual  intimacies.   Yet we cannot thus
achieve or  assure salvation.

     Other   people  cannot control our  salvation;    nor
can  we control their salvation.

     Salvation  is a mystery which is beyond our  control,
but   no   beyond  our  sharing  in   intimate   reflexive
relationships.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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