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    %PREVENT CHANGE CONTROL RESPOND GROWTH RELATION 910905

     When   a  person  responds to  a  change  in  her/his
environment  by trying to take control and prevent change,
the  response  to  the  external  change  is  an  internal
change  from  the patter  of behavior which preceded.  The
response by other persons to the attempt of one person  to
to take control is a  change  on their part,   which  will
further   change  the environment of the person who  seeks
to take control.  It is thus  impossible  to  respond   to
change in  a  way  which prevents further change.

     If    we  seek  security  in  permanence,    in   the
prevention  of change, we will fail.

     If  we  have  been growing up,   and then  decide  to
seek  security in permanence,   inhibiting our process  of
growing up is a change.

     If   we   have  been  participating  in   a   growing
relationship an decide that the relationships have  become
exactly  what   we want it to be  eternally,    inhibiting
further growth of the relationship will forever change the
relationship in  ways beyond our control.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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