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 %LEGALISTS PROHIBIT CODE RULE LOVERS DESCRIBE TRUE 910608

     Legalists   are  prone  to  impose  codes,     rules,
regulations,   laws,   taboos,   prohibitions,   etc.   to
attempt  to  prevent others from making mistakes.    Their
efforts  inhibit  honest  dialogue  about  what  might  be
learned  from mistakes  which are inevitably made.  People
who are inhibited by legalists pretend  not  to have  made
mistakes  and  so  are   unable   to  carefully   consider
mistakes made, so cannot learn all that might  be  learned
from    the    experience   of    making    the   mistake.
Legalists'    behaviors are evil behaviors in  that  their
behaviors unnecessarily lead to alienation.

     True   lovers  openly  and  honestly  describe  their
experiences  in  making mistakes so that  all  people  may
learn  as  much  as  is  possible  to   learn   from   the
mistakes   made.      The descriptions  by true lovers  of
their  experiences   related  to   making   mistakes  help
others  to avoid making the  same mistakes in the  future.
There   is  no  coercion,   manipulation  or   threat   of
excommunication  present  in the   descriptions  of   true
lovers   telling of their experiences  in  making whatever
mistakes they have made.

     Legalists    tend   to   be   dishonest   about   the
consequences     of   their   imposed   codes,      rules,
regulations,   laws,  taboos, prohibitions,   etc.    They
refuse  to  admit  that   the imposition of codes,  rules,
regulations,   laws,   taboos,  prohibitions,   etc.  is a
mistake,    because they cannot see and  be  honest  about
their experiences;   for as  idolaters they  worship their
technologies of control in the  manner of addicts who  are
preoccupied with issues of control.

     True  lovers  are  not  preoccupied  with  issues  of
control  and  are  free to be honest about their  own  and
other  people's experiences; and so free to learn from the
experiences,   be  they  pleasant  or  unpleasant.    True
lovers  use  honest descriptions to help each other  avoid
repetitive  mistakes.  They   seek  to  set   each   other
free   to   offer   honest  descriptions   of  their   own
experiences,  whatever they may be.

     True   lovers  are often crucified for speaking   the
truth  openly  and  honestly,   and for failing  to   show
"proper"    interest  in  and  concern  about   legalists'
preoccupations. Addicts (including legalists)  tend not to
demonstrate much respect for people who do not share their
preoccupations,   for   they  regard  the  foci  of  their
addictions   as  the primary  means  to salvation,    else
they  would not  be  so willing  to  sacrifice   so   much
to  the  foci  of  their preoccupations.    In  particular
they   are   willing   to sacrifice  in   the  service  of
their  preoccupations  those people who do not share their
preoccupations with them.

     These considerations are relevant in many  situations
which   involve  conflicts  pertaining  to:     sexuality,
religiosity,    piety,    nationalism,    professionalism,
politics,  business, education,    medicine,   alcoholism,
addictions,       co-dependency,      cultural   identity,
technocracy,     terrorism,   law,   order,    militarism,
insecurity,    and  defensiveness---to  suggest   a    few
relevant   situations.    For  the  reasons indicated   it
is   not   easy  to  be  honest  about   such  situations;
in  fact it is often very  dangerous  to  be honest  about
such situations.   Wise people are honest with  discretion
and charity in such situations.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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