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   %DISINTEGRATION HONESTY ADDICT DEPEND KNOW AVOID 910409

     Members   of  each  community,   culture  and society
differ  in their degree of commitment to honesty,  and  to
personal and communal integrity.

     In each  community,   culture and society  there  are
people  who regard some forms of dishonesty as  acceptable
tools to be used   in  the manipulation of  people;    and
they respect  people  who   are  skillful  in  dishonestly
manipulating   people  for  private  gain,    profit   and
advantage.

     There  are many people who are  enmeshed in collusive
games  of mutual self deception:  they confuse  themselves
and  each  other  about  what is true,   and what  is  not
true;    they themselves  are the victims of their own use
of  dishonesty in  manipulating  other  people.    They do
not  know  how dishonest they are being.

     In  each  instance there are people in the  community
who  are  unable   to  recognize  the difference   between
the  truly  honest people,   and those manipulative people
who    respect   various   forms    of    dishonesty    as
acceptable  tools   of personal manipulation.  As a result
many   manipulative   and  dishonest  people  are   highly
respected,  in ignorance of the disintegrations which they
promote.

     Young people who are  fundamentally  honest are often
trapped  in   the collusive games of mutual self deception
of  their elders. It is difficult to live as members of an
addictive and codependent society which uses dishonesty in
personal manipulations,  and avoid getting enmeshed in the
dishonest manipulations.   Such entrapment is particularly
difficult for  infants  and young children to avoid   when
they   are  dependent   upon   the  adult  members  of  an
addictive   and/or  codependent family of origin.   It  is
difficult  for students in  addictive  and/or  codependent
schools,    colleges  and universities to avoid entrapment
in  the  collusive  games of mutual   self   deception  of
their     teachers,       professors,     mentors      and
administrators.    Similar  statements   may properly   be
made  regarding work places and the  processes of becoming
certified as practitioners in each profession.

     In  each instance it is important for healthy  people
to  work  to   provide  to children,    young  people  and
students  the  cognitive    and   effective   tools   with
which  they can understand  the dynamic processes by which
they may become entrapped,  enmeshed and imprisoned in the
collusive  games  of   mutual   self  deception  of  their
elders;    so   they   may better work to  avoid  becoming
victims of such processes.

     For  a  community,   culture or society  to  maintain
its  integrity,     the   healthy  members  of  it    must
work consistently  to  provide  the next  generation  with
the  intellectual   and   affective tools with  which   to
sustain  honesty  by  knowing  how  to  avoid  entrapment,
enmeshment  and imprisonment  in collusive games of mutual
self   deception of  powerful  addicts  and  codependents.
There  are  always present some tendencies towards  decay,
disintegration,   and greater  entropy.    In  the absence
of   wise   efforts  to counter-balance   such  tendencies
with    work   towards   honesty   and   integrity;    the
disintegration of communities, cultures and societies is a
natural process.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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