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  %BOND RISK TRUST TABOO OBJECT BIAS CONTROL ADDICT 910312

     Some   people   avoid   the  bonding   of   authentic
friendships and  authentic  sexual  relationships  out  of
fear  that  such bonding   would  undermine  their ability
to  be  properly objective, properly unbiased, or properly
in control.  Such fear  is  the fear of the addict  who in
insecurity   is   so defensive   as   to  be   unable   to
risk   entering    into relationships which entail  honest
vulnerability.   Such  fear leads  its  victims to  choose
alienation  with  its bias  of personal  ignorance,     as
being  preferable  to the bias  of  being  bonded  through
intimate    knowledge,     friendship    and/or     sexual
relationships.    Such fear is rationalized in   terms  of
being professional,   scientific,   objective,   unbiased,
etc. Such fear does not lead to the transcendence of bias;
rather  it  leads  to  the bias of  dishonesty  about  the
motivations  which are the cause of avoidance of  intimacy
with  its  risks of vulnerability.  Avoidance of  intimacy
entails, however,  the risks of ignorance and the risks of
making decisions in ignorance;  and also failing to  learn
from mistakes made because of the ignorance of alienation.

     Where    there   is  much  alienation  and   personal
ignorance  we  need  to consider whether the ignorance may
be    rooted   in  the  addictive  thought   patterns   of
professionals   seeking   to   transcend    bias   through
objectivity which is motivated  by  the fear that personal
bonding   would  undermine  the  ability  to  be  properly
objective,   properly unbiased,  or properly  in  control.
We  need  to  acknowledge that   such   addictive  thought
patterns    lead   to   the   biases    of     dishonesty,
alienation and personal ignorance; and then seek to change
in ways which will transcend such biases in honestly.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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