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  %FIX SALVATION RESCUE REDEMPTION SAVE ACCEPT LOVE 910218

     Most people  at  a deep level feel that they  have  a
profound un-met need, often expressed as hunger.  Some try
to meet it by eating food.  Others try to meet it  through
sexual  activity.  Many try to meet it by the  acquisition
and  control of possessions.  Romantics seek to meet it in
romantic  settings  through romantic  rituals  with  other
romantics. Addicts seek to meet it through the acquisition
of  fixes.   Codependents seek  to quiet the need  through
unhealthy  sacrifice  and service.

     The un-met need is the need for honest authentic love
and  acceptance,   given and received in  the  absence  of
manipulative   conditions.    The  need  cannot   be   met
dishonestly  through  technical  procedures,    compulsive
activity,   acquisition,   control,   achievements,   sex,
romance,  meritorious service, etc.  The need can truly be
met only by honest gifts  of love and honest acceptance of
such gifts in the absence of manipulative conditions.

     Some people believe and act as if their deep need can
be  filled  by getting something which somebody  else  has
control  over  through ownership.   For drug  addicts  the
search is for chemical fixes.   For sex addicts the search
is  for a sexual fix.   For romance addicts the search  is
for  a romantic fix.   For technocrats the search is for a
technological fix.  For the religious addict the search is
for  a  salvation  fix through  works,   faith,   rituals,
service,   etc.    Some people take advantage of being  in
control of fixes;  others are taken advantage of.   In all
such  relationships honesty is lost and love  is  unknown.
It   is  assumed  that  needs  can  be  met  through   the
achievement  of  merit,   and/or the exercise  of  control
through power and/or authority.

     God is Love and is not manipulated in dishonest  ways
with power or authority.  Love meets the deep needs in the
ways which only Love can meet them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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