This is http://www.essayz.com/a9012131.htm         
Previous-Essay      <== This-Essay ==>     Following-Essay
Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words.
{Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.}
==========================================================
   %CONFLICT POWER CONTROL WISDOM DIFFERENCE HONEST 901213

     Much conflict deals with people seeking to acquire or
retain what they believe is the power to be in control. It
is  assumed  that some people have such power,   and  that
other people do not have it;  and that somehow such  power
can be given,  taken,  transferred,  conferred or in  some
other  way  change hands.  Much conflict  revolves  around
perceptions of who has power,  and who does not have power
to be in control.

     There  are  some  instances in which people  do  have
authority,   power and the ability to control some things.
It  is usually impersonal things which can be  controlled.
It is rarely people who can be controlled. When it appears
that people are being controlled it may be more appearance
than reality, for there are hidden aspects of people which
are  never controlled by others.  Even the  appearance  of
control  is  as  much  a  delusion  in  the  eyes  of  the
controller  as it is a reality;  for personal  control  is
never  an  objective reality which exists apart  from  its
appearance to others. Control of people exists only in the
eyes of those people who perceive it. Control of people is
never an objective reality. People who think otherwise are
fools.

     Conflict  exists between people seeking to manipulate
the  appearance of being in control in their own eyes  and
in  the eyes of others who do not see  clearly.   Conflict
pertains  to grounds for self esteem which are regarded as
dependent  upon  levels  and kinds of  control.   Conflict
pertains to seeking to dishonestly maintain the appearance
of being in control in the absence of true control.  Those
people who threaten to destroy the appearance of  control,
are  likely to be threatened by those who seek to maintain
the  appearance of control in futile efforts  to  maintain
their self esteem.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
==========================================================