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   %GOOD SAMARITAN LIMITED SERVICE ADDICTION DEPEND 900508

     There is  great  danger in the admonition  which   is
implicit in the story of the good Samaritan.

     If  a willingness to be of service is  not  prudently
limited,  addictive persons will take advantage of willing
codependents  who  will sacrifice their own  integrity  in
efforts to be of unlimited service to people who appear to
be in need of unlimited service.

     By  extension,   anyone who is willing  to  sacrifice
their   own    integrity  in   an    effort  to   fix    a
situation   for another  person  who is apparently  unable
to  take care  of themselves,   is  likely  to  fall  into
the  trap of  trying to  fix all situations which seem  to
be  unsatisfactory  and  are   open  to  fixation.    Such
imprudently willing  servants are likely to become fixated
upon  being    of  service,   and so  become  involved  in
fixing   situations  which in  their  judgement   are  not
satisfactory.    They  may  intrude  where  they  are  not
invited,   yet are  able   to make  themselves welcome  by
the    services which they  offer.    They  may  encourage
others   to    become addicted   to   the  services  which
they  sacrificially offer;   they offer too good a deal to
turn  down because they offer it so   sacrificially.   Yet
the   deal   turns    sour through  the   development   of
addictive/codependent  relationships  of false  needs  and
disintegrative services.

     Admonitions to be loving servants need to be  coupled
with  teachings pertaining to loving your self as much  as
you  love others;  else you cannot love others very  well,
because  you  cannot  love others any more than  you  love
yourself.    People  who  do not take care  of  their  own
integrity  do not have the integrity to really love others
with integrity.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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