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  %BEING THANKFUL APPRECIATE CONTROL ADDICT ACHIEVE 900322

     To  be thankful one must acknowledge that one is  not
fully in control of all aspects of one's life.

     To  be  thankful  is  to  acknowledge  that  one   is
dependent in ways over which one has no control.

     Thankfulness,  appreciation,  tranquility,  serenity,
and relaxation are enjoyed by people who acknowledge  that
they  are  not  in control of their lives  and  that  they
cannot  and  do not want to be in control of  others  upon
whom they are dependent in ways which they cannot control.

     Addicts,  codependents,  technocrats and participants
in  all   kinds   of  collusive  games  of   mutual   self
deception  regarding    control---cannot    be   thankful,
appreciative, tranquil,  serene,   or relaxed because they
must be always on guard and always trying to be in control
in competition with others who are always trying to be  in
control.

     Practicing  the art of appreciation and  thankfulness
is  part  of  the  process  of  recovery  from  addiction,
codependence and collusive manipulations; for appreciation
and  thankfulness are possible only as one lets go of  and
spiritually  detaches  from those friends,  relatives  and
work associates who are attached to the attitudes, habits,
ideals, and values which call for being in control of self
and other.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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