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%TACIT COLLUSION AGAINST PAINFUL TRUTHS LIMITATIONS 891227

     Often  we are given or told truths in what appears to
be  a straightforward way;  yet,  there is something about
the context and how others treat the truth which tells  us
that we are expected NOT to really believe the truth,   or
at least we are NOT to take it too seriously. For example,
the  truth that we will surely die.  The way the truth  is
treated  teaches us NOT to deal too realistically with it;
i.e., to treat it as if it were NOT really, really true.

     It  is not that the explicit telling of the truth  is
distorted;  it is something about the context in which the
truth is told and dealt with,  which puts the truth safely
away  where  we do not expect to have to deal with it  too
realistically.   Truth can thus have its sting taken away;
be  sugar coated so that it is hidden inside the  coating.
Such truths can be possessed in a safe way, in a way which
is not as troublesome as if they were not put safely away.

     Truths which have been put safely away may truthfully
be recited without distortion;  but because they have been
put  safely  away from really touching us,   they  do  not
trouble  us as they would if they had not been put  safely
away.  When such painful truths have been put safely  away
the  verbalization  of them does not reach us with  power;
just as recitations of statements of religious faith often
do  not reach us with power.  Putting them away  does  not
mean  that they are totally out of mind;  it is more  like
they  are out of heart and soul,  even when present in the
mind and the social rituals.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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