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 %HELL ACCEPT REJECTED ACHIEVE ADDICT DEPEND HEALTH 891025

Hell is the state of not being accepted,  not knowing what
healthy  acceptance  is,   and not knowing how  to  accept
healthy acceptance.

People who live in hell have not be accepted in a  healthy
way. They live in homes where people expect you to achieve
acceptability,   but  the way to achieve acceptability  is
ambiguous.   In  hell acceptability cannot  be  controlled
because  of  its  ambiguity and because of  the  confusion
which rules in hell.

People   who  live  in  hell  do  not  know  what  healthy
acceptance is,   because they have not experienced it  and
because  of  the confusion and ambiguity of hell.  They do
not know how to recognize healthy acceptance, and in their
confusion work  for  unhealthy acceptance,  thinking it is
healthy acceptance,  and reject healthy acceptance because
through  confusion  they  regard  healthy  acceptance   as
unacceptable; it is unearned.

In  hell  acceptability  is  based  only  upon  individual
personal   achievement,   and  the  ambiguous  rules  make
personal  achievement of acceptability impossible,   while
making  acceptance  of unconditional  personal  acceptance
taboo. In hell people find it impossible to accept healthy
acceptance  because such acceptance is taboo;  it violates
the collusive games of mutual self deception which rule in
hell.

There are various kinds of acceptance and rejection:

There  is the personal Acceptance-of-Love which demands no
achievement  and  is  unwilling to let  acceptance  be  an
achievement.   There  is  the opposite which  is  personal
rejection   based  upon  a  failure  to  achieve  personal
acceptance based upon personal achievements.

There  is the kind of personal acceptance which  is  based
upon   personal  achievement/conformity.   There  is   the
opposite which is the detachment from people who refuse to
accept the personal Acceptance-of-Love,  and who demand to
be accepted upon the basis of some achievement or mutually
agreed to set of conditions.

The people who live in heaven are those who participate in
the Acceptance-of-Love which demands no achievement,   and
are unwilling to let acceptance be an achievement.

The  people  who  live  in  hell  are  those  who  do  not
participate  in the Acceptance-of-Love;  those who try  to
achieve  acceptability,  and those who demand that  others
conform to expectations to qualify for acceptance.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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