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   %MARTYR RESCUE TEACH LEARN MISTAKES CONSEQUENCES 890803

     Martyrs  who are constantly and compulsively  seeking
to rescue people who never learn from the consequences  of
their mistakes,  teach such people to never learn from the
consequences of their mistakes.

     Such  martyrs  keep  foolish  people  dependent  upon
martyrs'   services  by over-responsible  martyrs'   never
learning   from  the  consequences  of  their   compulsive
service.  Compulsive martyrs teach others to be  dependent
in unhealthy ways.

     Martyrs  need to learn how to express their  feelings
of  compassion  without  teaching others  to  depend  upon
compulsive  martyrs  to rescue them from  their  mistakes.
Martyrs  need to learn to feel compassion  for  themselves
and  the mistakes they themselves have made;  and to  take
care of their own health,  to protect their own integrity.
If they lack integrity,  they cannot help others to  enjoy
integrity.

     Disintegrating  people cannot  protect the  integrity
of others who fail to work to protect their own integrity.
Integrity  is not served by compulsively sacrificing  your
own  integrity again and again to rescue people who refuse
to  protect  their  own integrity.   Such  martyrdom  only
teaches others to take advantage of martyrs.

     People   are not well served when they  are   heavily
protected from the consequences of their own mistakes.  It
is foolish to make great sacrifices of one's own integrity
in  attempting  to keep such  people  from  disintegrating
themselves.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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