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  %GOOD CONFORM COERCE CONTROL MANIPULATE EVIL LOVE 890513

     It  is not good to be conformed to any conception  of
what it means to be good.

     Conformity entails coercion,  manipulation,  control,
and  violence  which in turn entail misleading  behaviors,
dishonesty,   defensiveness and disintegration of  persons
and communities. Conformity entails much that is not good,
even when the standards for conformity are apparently very
good standards.

     It  is not good to be conformed to any conception  of
what it means to be good, no matter how good the standards
may be.

     To  be  conformed  is to  be  coerced,   manipulated,
controlled, violated.

     To  be authentic is to be yourself as a whole person;
not  to be conformed to some pattern which is inconsistent
with yourself as a whole person.

     To be authentic you need to be yourself, true to your
own  experiences,  perceptions,  feelings,  beliefs,   and
thoughts.    If  you  cannot  be  true  to  what  is  most
essentially your own, to what can you be true?

     To  have integrity as a person and to  contribute  to
the  integrity of your community,  you need to be a  whole
being  free of internal conflicts between a desire  to  be
true  to  your  own  nature,   and  a  desire  to  achieve
acceptance  by  yielding to pressures to conform  to  that
which  is  not true to your own nature.   Being  whole  is
essential to contributing to communal integrity.

     It  is not good to be conformed to any conception  of
what  it  means  to  be  good.   Communities  which  think
otherwise are disintegrating and usually can not see their
own disintegration because they are dishonestly conforming
to some conception of themselves as being good.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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