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        %REPRESSION OF KINDS OF HONEST DESCRIPTIONS 871214

     Collusive and addictive repressions tend  to  lead to
the repression  of  various  kinds of honest  descriptions
of central human experiences.

     Collusive   people  can  not  be  content  with   the
repression  of  just  one kind  of emotionally threatening
experiences;   they  compulsively  tend  to repress  other
experiences  and descriptions which might remind  them  of
the       emotionally       threatening       experiences.
Collusive/addictive  people  try to put out of mind  those
experiences and  descriptions  which  remind  them of that
which so embarrasses them that  they cannot  honestly deal
with the embarrassment.

     When  you do not know how to deal with  embarrassment
with   integrity,    you  try   to   avoid   embarrassment
through  techniques of avoidance and  repression.     Such
efforts    at  avoidance   of   embarrassment   lead    to
repression  of  various  kinds  of behaviors  which  might
remind  the  colluding addicts of that  which  embarrasses
them.

     Addicts  often have the feeling/belief that they have
a  right not to  be embarrassed,   and  that  others  have
a   corresponding   duty/obligation   to    avoid    doing
anything  which   might   embarrass   the   addicts    who
exercise considerable power  and  influence.      Informal
laws  are accepted which make it  effectively  illegal  to
embarrass   the  emotionally  immature  addicts.       The
collusive  addicts  can   not  bear  to   go  through  the
embarrassment  which would be entailed  in   getting  such
laws formalized,   because in the process of debating  the
merits  of  the    laws  they would  be   embarrassed   by
reminders  of   the  very  experiences which the laws  are
intended to keep hidden from memory.

     It  is  absurd when one must violate the purpose of a
law in  order  to pass the law in a formal  way;   the law
must  lack  integrity!   Under such  circumstances  it  is
important to examine the purpose of the desired law to see
if the purpose has integrity!

     The   repression   of   awareness   of   embarrassing
experiences   becomes   expansive,    and  leads  to   the
repression  of  any  experiences  and  descriptions  which
remind   powerful people   of   what   embarrasses   them.
Such    expansive  repression   is   bound   to  lead   to
ignorance,    confusion, prejudice,  and illogical thought
processes.

     It  is  important to deal with embarrassment in  ways
which  promote  open  and honest  dialogue  regarding  the
reasons for the embarrassment; then people can be open and
honest  about  their experiences,  desires,   motivations,
fears,   hopes,   etc.    Only then can both personal  and
communal integrity survive and grow.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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