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           %ADDICTS CONFORMAL REBELLION LINCOLN LOG 871128

     The   rebellious  person  is  often  trapped  between
conformity   and rebellion,  oscillating  back  and  forth
between    the    two  extremes   of   their   paradoxical
dichotomy.  They are  not free to be themselves so long as
they are in rebellion.   So long as they are in  rebellion
they  are  very  insecure  and need  to  win  affirmation.
Since  they  are  in  rebellion    they    can   not   win
affirmation   by   being authentically   themselves,   and
so   because   they   are   in  rebellion,  they  turn  to
conformity    to  win  approval.     They sense  that   in
their conformity they are not   authentically  themselves;
and  in  a futile   effort   to    be  themselves;    they
revert    to  rebellion  which  is tied  to  that  against
which  they  are rebelling.

     To   become  free  the  addict  must  turn  loose  of
both rebellion and conformity;  we cannot  be free  of one
while  keeping the other.   The two ends of the  dichotomy
are  part of  the same reality, and the whole reality must
be  let go to be rid of either end of the reality.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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