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    %DEPENDENCE TO INTERDEPENDENCE VIA INDEPENDENCE 870603

     It  is  hard  for a person who  is  dependent  in  an
addictive way to move toward interdependence without first
learning how to be independent.   It is hard for a  person
who  is  co-dependent with an addictive dependent to  help
the  addict to reach and enjoy interdependence without the
addict first learning how to enjoy independence.   The co-
dependent  can not in a co-dependent way give independence
to the addictive dependent.

     Co-dependence  and  inter-dependence  are  different.
Co-dependents are trapped in a prison which prevents  them
from being free to be independent.   Dependent addicts are
co-dependent   with  their  supporters.    Supporters   of
dependent  addicts are co-dependent with  their  dependent
addicts.    None of them is interdependent in a  true  way
because  all of them lack the freedom to  be  independent,
and  lack  the freedom to be truthful about  their  lacks.
True  interdependence  involves open and honest  dialogue;
truthfulness.    Co-dependents and their dependent addicts
lack truthfulness and integrity,   no matter how rich they
may  be  in  money,   power,  knowledge,   techniques  and
technology.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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