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                  %CONTROL INTEGRITY SALVATION EVIL 870414

If  anything outside a person exerts control  over a
person's thoughts,   feelings,  behavior, perceptions,  or
reflections---there  are bound to  be  internal  conflicts
between that which  exerts unilateral control and internal
personal  considerations  which may not be congruent  with
the external control.

     The  situation  is not fundamentally different  if  a
person   has  had  injected  into  themselves,    or   has
internalized   into  themselves  controlling   principles,
attitudes,   values,   ideals,  or role  models,   Without
integration  internal personal considerations will not  be
congruent with the externally originated control.

     All human attempts at achieving control run the  risk
of  producing  the  internalization  of  control   without
integration, and so the generation of conflict without the
foundations  for integrative conflict  resolution.    Such
conflict  is bound to generate alienation,   estrangement,
misunderstanding   and   frustration;    with    attendant
tendencies toward various forms of violence.

     Achieving   control  may  be  appropriate   in   some
circumstances,   but it clearly is not appropriate in  all
circumstances.     It  is  important  to   recognize   the
difference  between circumstances where the achievement of
control is helpful and circumstances where the achievement
of  control  is disintegrative.  All too often  people get
the message that they should try to be in control  of  all
kinds  of circumstances,  without  discriminating  between
circumstances.

     Control  is  not  appropriate where it  is  prone  to
generate  personal and communal conflict,  alienation  and
disintegration.    People  who  have  the  right  to  make
decisions  for  themselves can not be  controlled  without
disintegrative   consequences.    Influence  needs  to  be
negotiated  to  achieve  mutual  satisfaction  and  mutual
respect  with power,  freedom,   influence,   costs,   and
benefits---balanced   in  ways  which  facilitate   mutual
openness,   honesty,   dialogue,  and  cooperation.    The
achievement of control is not an appropriate ultimate goal
and  when  regarded  as an  ultimate goal;  disintegration
results.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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