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                               %CONTROLLING DESIRES 860523

     There is  not much satisfaction or meaning  in  being
able  to  control other people's behavior if the result is
in-authentic behavior.   If other people are pretending to
try  to be nice to you,  it is pretty obvious to you  that
their behavior is not authentic;  unless you and they  are
playing a game of mutual self deception which is perceived
to  be for mutual gain.   Dictators and  victims often  do
that.

     Normal people often yearn for the desire of  another,
but may not be able to elicit the yearned for desire. When
the yearned for desire is not elicited, in frustration one
may try to manipulate  the  other  into having the desire,
using subtle forms of psychological coercion and trickery.
Success at such a venture does not mean the same  thing as
does  the  yearned  for  desire  being  expressed  in   an
authentic and spontaneous  way. Success in the development
of the  technology  of psychological manipulation does not
mean the same thing as joyfully letting go and being truly
in   Love.    Being  together  truly  in  Love  is  not  a
technological  success.  Being in Love is a state of being
and consciousness,  not an accomplishment.   Being in Love
is not so much a mode of action as of being;   from  which
being action flows. Action flows from being in Love. Being
in  Love  does not flow from action,   but  from  joyfully
letting go to the presence of Love.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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